Author Tony Samara insists that anyone, anywhere, anytime – in a cancer hospice, or on Afghan battlefields – can be in bliss. A new excerpt from his book, From the Heart.
BY TONY SAMARA — Whether your suffering is a low-grade depression or a paralyzing fear, you can rise above it. From the Heart is a collection of satsangs (Sanskrit for “association with truth”) from live workshops with spiritual seekers from around the globe. In this excerpt, a uniquely-simple way of overcoming one particular source of pain in our lives: the mundane.
Detach from the intensity of the mundane
A mouse is trying to find a space to be safe, but the cat follows. It knows exactly where the mouse is and there is no escape. Maybe for a little moment there is a safe place to hide and to be in, but this little mouse basically lives in fear. Yes? This is how I understand suffering.
If you are thinking of how to move beyond this and this is the space that you’re in, you’re like the little mouse. Full of fear, full of this concept which is what is so chaotic and so subtle and so . . . what’s the English word? So dominating in its essence. This concept is fear.
What we are running away from is not actually suffering but what we’re doing is embracing suffering by honoring the space of fear that we are creating around the suffering.
Actually suffering, if you can still follow what I’m saying, is not real. It’s only real because you make it real…
…When people say to me, “Tony, I’m suffering!” I say, “Remember the joy!” and they look at me and they say, “Come on Tony, that doesn’t make any sense to me! I’m suffering! Can you not feel my feeling? I’m suffering! What does joy have to do with suffering? Can you not take me more seriously? Please answer my question, please help me!” And I say, “Joy.” You have the choice to be joyful even in the most complicated and chaotic of situations. You have this choice. Even if in the beginning it’s just a pretence. Try to bring joy into that space that is dominating your emotional body, the fear…
…It’s very easy. We have to go back and change that fear so that the communication speaks to you in a very different way. When we do this, for example, we go back to the fear and then we say, “That is not the picture that I will feed my emotions with because I want to create a different reality. I will feed it with love.” Joy is love. It’s basically an expression of love. “I will feed it with love.” How can we do this if we are upset? It’s very, very simple. Take a deep breath and come back to another memory.
The cat is not real
Remember for example the beauty in that partner you locked out of the house and said, “I don’t want you in here because you’re just too silly!” Forget that emotion and go back to the sensation that you had when you first met this person, when you first realized the soul of that being.
Ok maybe you don’t have a partner . . . a child is ok? Or a pet, a dog. Dogs can be amazing, they bring joy to people. Ok, you don’t have a dog, you don’t have a child, and you don’t have a partner you say? Ok.
What do you have that makes you happy? Go back and explore. Explore an aspect of your life where your heart opened and there was a sense of joy so then what we’re doing is flying high like the eagle, expanding our energy beyond that limited mundane aspect that is creating the suffering.
We’re expanding to a space where love feeds the heart, where love feeds the emotions and when this happens, we create a different reality. Even in the middle of a war zone. Even in the middle of pain and suffering. Reality begins to change, but maybe not immediately.
If you are waiting for it to change immediately, then you’re doing what people always do and that is requiring a change from the divine because it’s your right to have that change. You say, “I don’t want to suffer, I want something better!” and of course, you know this is very different from what I’m saying. This is coming from the ego. It’s a desire. “I want to be better, I want to have more money so that I want to be free so that I want this and I want that.” That is the ego.
I’m asking you to come back to the space of love, joy, so that you can feed the emotions. In that space the emotions no longer invest in the cat and mouse game where fear is the dominating factor but rather come back to its deepest essence and that is joy, harmony. When you do this, reality has to change. That is the law of physics…
…Give yourself time. Be patient and go deeper because the mouse and the cat can play many games until the mouse realizes that the cat is actually just a shadow. It was never there. It’s just a shadow that all mice believe to be true. There are no cats in the world and then you’re no longer a mouse. Then you realize you’re a human being and that fear is just another emotion that is actually quite useful to have. I love fear because it helps to create a sense of what joy means.
After living for several years in a Zen Buddhist monastery, Tony Samara ventured to the jungles of South America – to the Amazon and to the Andes – where he lived and studied among a community of Shamans. Tony Samara is now visited by people from all parts of the world and from all walks of life, seeking spiritual guidance or simply the experience of being in his presence. His function is as a Spiritual Teacher who encourages all to lead their lives actively in a noble way in order to realize the evolution of human consciousness.
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