“How I use every single experience to teach me about expanding my awareness of love”
GUEST COLUMN: CARI LA GRANGE MURPHY — How do we allow the love in our hearts to permeate our experience and enhance the quality of our lives? From personal experience I have learned that a daily, conscious choice is necessary for me to actively engage the spark of light within me and within everyone I encounter throughout my day.
When I approach every interaction with the intention of finding commonality and equality between us, I experience a feeling of unity and connection.
Conversely, when I judge an individual or a situation, I feel a sense of anxiety and separation that doesn’t resonate well with my heart and my spirit.
Just yesterday I found myself experiencing that feeling of separation. I shared a link to my website and my work with someone in an effort to allow this individual a further peek into my world. I didn’t realize until later that I had expected a specific response or outcome from this. When the individual didn’t respond in the way I expected, I began to judge the situation negatively.
Thankfully, the emotions that I felt prompted me to catch myself and become aware of the separation I was creating. I consciously let go of my judgment and desire to question the individual and simply chose to accept the situation and his response without judgment.
The funny thing is that the response wasn’t even negative — it just didn’t carry with it the enthusiasm I wanted (down, down ego!) So, I chose to remember and realize that my interpretation of the situation wasn’t bringing me closer to this individual. I then decided to embrace him (and myself) with love and let go of any specific expectations I had previously held.
All of our experiences have one primary purpose, and that is to expand our awareness. When we choose to view the spiritual meaning behind every experience, we begin to understand the miraculous nature of life. Practicing self acceptance, forgiveness and non-separation from others can truly transform our lives.
Opening our hearts in each moment nurtures the spark within us that feeds our soul and awakens us to our true purpose in life. It brings clarity and illumination to any narrow-minded beliefs and conditions of our experience. The light and love within us will not refuse to shine when called upon. We must simply invoke that eternal spark within us that is always available and awaiting recognition.
Our love (or lack of love) for others always stems from, and is reflective of, the love that we have (or lack) for ourselves. In order for us to receive the unconditional love that we long for, we must take responsibility for giving it to ourselves first. What we see in others and our experience is a direct result of what we believe and expect.
Until we can look into the mirror with full honesty and openness — seeing our own beliefs reflected there — we will unconsciously use others as mirrors to show us what we believe about ourselves. Long story short: if we don’t feel deserving of love, we will attract others into our experience that will withhold love from us.
If we love and accept ourselves, we will attract others who will also love us and see the beauty within us. Love is the only response that will eliminate fear from our experience. I encourage you to try it!
When we love any person or situation that invokes a sense of fear within us, the fear will disappear. Love is the antidote to fear because fear is simply the absence of love. It cannot exist where love is present and alive.
When we choose love, we find bliss. When we choose resistance, we find suffering. Every miracle is simply a demonstration of the fact that love is undoubtedly stronger than fear.
Living with an open heart stems from an emotional and spiritual willingness to look beyond our preconceptions and move beyond the limits that we place on ourselves.
Every situation in our lives offers us the opportunity for greater intimacy and spiritual freedom through the decision to fully embrace ourselves and others with love. This may not happen overnight, but, with practice, it becomes easier and the rewards are priceless.
Even as an inspirational author who has the knowledge at my mental-fingertips, I (like everyone else) am continually challenged to make conscious choices that will enhance the quality of my experiences.
I continue to be offered a choice each and every day to either embrace and allow the love to flow in my life or to resist my experiences and experience separation and pain. Enlightenment is an ongoing process of conscious decision making, compassion for ourselves and others, and purposeful living.
May we all strive for awareness in each moment, knowing that we determine the quality of our experience. May we all choose to awaken to love and experience the bliss that we are intended to feel, share and know. I wish you peace, harmony and perfect awareness.
Cari L. Murphy is a best-selling inspirational and spiritual author, (www.Create-Change-Now.com) broadcaster, radio show host (www.CreateChangeNowRadio.com) speaker, and founder and CEO of Empowerment Coaching Solutions, and an empowerment mentor worldwide.
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