Tuesday, October 17th 2017

Why you don’t heal: It’s a personal choice

Answer 5 questions and put yourself on the road to better health

GUEST COLUMN: ANDREA CONNELL — I’m a Reiki master and when people come to me for healing, I look for that special moment when they commit to their health. It’s the very first thing I try to evoke in my clients.

Often people know they want to heal, that they want to change some aspect of their lives, yet they stumble and don’t know where to start. They try out many different modalities, searching for the one way to affect change.

Sadly, for some it never happens, but for others it seems that everything they do contributes in some way to their health, like stepping stones on a path.

The difference, however, isn’t in the modalities.  The power to heal rests in an individual’s ability to commit to their health and their right to choose.

For some people, this is the hardest thing to grasp. It is essential to take the “bull by the horns” and choose to heal. We must come to realize that ultimately we can not be healed by another.  The responsibility of healing sits with ourselves. To heal is a personal choice.

The right to choose

We have free will, we have the right to choose, and also we have our own right to heal. We may have, in the past, chosen to trust another’s instinct.  This may have overridden our inner knowing until eventually our intuitions became so still, so silent, that they became almost completely inaudible.

Lucky for us, opportunity is virtually an endless natural phenomenon that presents us with chances to correct something that has eluded us in the past. This refers also to health and healing.

The passing of time and paying heavy personal dues has allowed people to begin to assert their responsibility for themselves. Within us lies the bridge to natural intuitive wisdom.

For millennia we believed that the ‘wisdom keepers’, ie. the shamans, priests, doctors and other spiritual healers, held the mystical keys, knowledge and power to heal us.

We are just beginning to cross those bridges ourselves. We are learning to listen intuitively again and make personal choices. We have subsequently become more demanding in our quest for knowledge, more discerning for the truth. But the challenge that remains is one of personal integrity.

We have endless possibilities available to affect healing of our body, mind, and soul. And we are new at this game of making choices regarding our health. We are not doctors, nor do we want to be. We haven’t studied long years to understand the human system, nor are we interested in doing so; but we can still choose responsibly.

5 questions to ponder

1.  Do you understand what is happening in your body or in your treatment?

2.  Are you satisfied with your treatment?

3.  Do you do your part, faithfully?

4.  What else do you do to support health in your system?

5.  Have you taken any measures to inform yourself?

Becoming committed

It is imperative that we take our health and healing path seriously. It is nothing to play with. The responsibility that comes with becoming committed may seem daunting; it may initially seem easier to let someone else make all the decisions and assume all the responsibility.

But suddenly we understand that even when we allow another to make our choices for us, ultimately we ourselves must pay the price, no one else, and the impact of this truth gives us the push we need to hunt out the answers in the first place.

In my role as healer, I strive to empower my clients, allow them to lead the way. I wait for the moment when they indicate to me that they are choosing health. In this way I become accountable to them. I must explain my work clearly, and I must ask for their permission to do my work. I expect my clients to make decisions that are engaged with the healing path.

Healing is, after all, only a correction of path affected greatly by our power to choose and empowered by a deep-seated commitment to discover health. When people aren’t personally committed to their own healing or willing to make choices, they are expecting me to assume that responsibility, and in the end it won’t work.

Tips for energy workers

If you are an energy worker (as I am) you must also come to understand fully to what degree you have the power to affect others on their healing journeys. As ‘healer’ we step into the role of authority. We can alter another’s mental state of mind, emotional state of being, and thereby have bearing on their physical health easily just through the words we choose to use.

Loose tongues can wreck havoc because they plant ideas that take root in the mind. Once an idea or thought is locked in the mind the body will follow. Where attention goes, energy flows. As healers, encouraging self-healing in others, we must learn, with great skill, how to harness the power of the mind towards health and success for self and others.

As healers we must learn to assume responsibility over our words and actions and stay vigilantly attentive to how we assert our influence over those less aware. In the position of power, in a healing/mentor relationship, we have the duty to empower our clients’ right to choose their own path towards health, not to take it away.

Andrea is a full time practicing Reiki master, metaphysics teacher and energy practitioner. She has been using tarot cards and energy work to assist people in their life transitions for over 15 years.

She offers many programs, seminars and workshop in self-empowerment, metaphysics, meditation and Reiki. Visit her website and blog for more information.

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One Comment on “Why you don’t heal: It’s a personal choice”

  1. Thanks for sharing your observations and these steps. I worked with a sacral-cranial therapist. After she passed away, I learned she was also a Reiki practitioner. She combined a variety of techniques.

    I believe she would approve of your advice to healers. Thanks for sharing this.

    Take care,

    Author of You Want Me to Do WHAT? Journaling for Caregivers

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