Wednesday, October 18th 2017

How to heal from job loss: build a new you

“Just because CNN is selling economic fear across the board doesn’t mean you have to buy it.”

job-lossGUEST COLUMN: VAISHALI — From the Eastern perspective there will never be one single pill, diet, exercise or lifestyle that will cure what ails all people.

Each of our lives fulls of thoughts and episodes and sensations reflect an intensely-experienced microcosm. Each being has a unique fingerprint —  let it be said, soul’s code — and wants to be understood, examined and healed uniquely, not through the lens of mass judgment.

What is experientially, emotionally and perceptually toxic to one person could be liberating to another. There is not one accepted standard that will equally measure every nuance of every person’s life. The “average person” does not exist in Eastern philosophy.

job_loss1So it is when it comes to career development and the turmoil in our present job market. The media has dominated the intellectual landscape with reports of dire changes, catastrophic employment shifts and unsustainable economic losses.

“How will I ever find a job when millions of people are out of work? My world situation is dire, catastrophic and unsustainable. Hey, where have I heard that before?”  Just because CNN is selling economic fear across the board doesn’t mean you have to buy it. You have free will. And, that may not be your universe.

One man’s troubles can be another’s transformation

While the need to live within one’s means is not disputed, what is debilitating in one person’s reality may actually be liberating and powerfully transformative in another’s.

Shaking up the status quo is an opportunity to make different choices, to take another career path. Just because Fox News tells you everyone is losing their jobs does not mean you have the whole story.


Human evolution allows old, tired and outdated methods of expansion to die out. If life has offered you a new set of circumstances, it is nature’s way of saying, “You are ready to grow in a new direction; there is nothing left for you in the old way; move on.”

Focus on breakthrough by taking and making the most of this fortuitous event rather than being paralyzed by breakdown from lamenting the loss of what you have grown beyond.

Your neighbors lost their jobs and are in crisis. Does that mean there is a career crisis in your world? You are a universe unto yourself. That employment setback may be your neighbors’ next biggest opportunity to re-evaluate their lives and what is important to them.

It does not mean you need to bookmark or other online headhunters, or spend sleepless nights worrying about your job security. There is not one developmental-driving reality that visits all people simultaneously.

The names of fear

woman-job-lossCrisis, dire, catastrophic, impossible are all different names for fear. From a bigger picture perspective, what is presently occurring is a global fear epidemic spreading locally. Not by germ or bacteria but rather by worldview. The outer world conditions again reflect the inner world conditions.

What that means is just because some people get the flu, doesn’t mean everyone on the planet is sick or even going to get sick. When you refuse to accept change when it appears in your microcosmic universe, you have not only opened the door to suffering, but also personally invited it in, offered it drinks and comfortable place to stay.

Embrace change, because it will never just go away

The details of life on Earth will always be changing; that is the nature of this impermanent world. Nothing here stays for long. Everything on the planet has a shelf life. What were the only consistent career choices a hundred years ago versus today’s world, aside from undertaking, tax collecting and prostitution? There are none.

The job you thought was a safe and secure employment two years ago may not even exist today. Even the pace of change has gained speed and momentum. The more we as a global community advance, the faster these changes will take place.

Deal with the details, but don’t sweat them

resting-with-rose-petalsEastern spiritual philosophies point out the shortcomings to an inherent basic human desire: control. We attempt to control every detail of the outer world and hold it in a fixed place, until we have everything right where we want it to be.

We all desire to create a comfortable external reality and then maintain that position forever. We want to solve a problem once in our lives and then never have to revisit it again. We want to find a job once then never have to deal with job or career transitions again. We invest in a position of some kind and expect it to pay us dividends the rest of our lives.

What this leads to is an escalated experience of personal suffering due to the inescapable reality that life is constantly in a state of flux, change and motion, forever vulnerable and subject to the permeable forces of life on Earth.

You are no different than your 401K! Just as the macrocosmic universe is ever-growing, expanding and changing, so it is with your microcosmic universe. Things will orbit, eclipse and even from time to time collide with your world. That is what it means to be human and a universe unto yourself.

I will bend like a reed in the wind — Paul Atreides, from Frank Herbert’s Dune

At our finest, we are designed to be flexible, resilient, open to change and sensitive to growth potential. The paradox of the human experience is that we are built for rapid and sudden adaptation, but we want everything perfectly organized and in its place, and we want it to all stay that way, or else!

Just because we are created to go with the mutable flow does not make us immune to primitive responses such as rigidity, fearfulness, inflexibility and unreasonable stubbornness.

Just because we have achieved a specific quality of livelihood doesn’t mean there will not be an opportunity to upgrade and evolve to the next level. Just because some people are screaming the sky is falling doesn’t mean your name is Chicken Little. The Western concept that there is only one reality, and that it is a ubiquitous truth that is merely an illusion.

woman-breathingWhen job loss is at an all time high, it is an invitation to reinvent ourselves, our skills and talents, and to dare to explore the dreams and potentials that have lived outside of our previous comfort zone, our occupationally-challenged box.

Imagine what the world would be like if computers were suppressed because they were going to displace millions of people’s jobs. Steve Jobs of Apple wouldn’t have a job or a company. I guess that would make him just Steve, or Steve Jobless.

For every loss, we, as unlimited Spiritual beings, have both the power and potential to invent a new wheel, create another source of fire, mine previously unexplored inner forms of gold. After all, this planet was constructed so that we could realize and unfold the evolution of our souls.

While living in an environment that was manifested solely for the purpose of our awakening to the reality of our unlimited true nature, words like loss, failure, useless and unwanted really need to be redefined.

What also requires redefining are ideas like success, valuable and a willingness to experience the present moment as an opportunity to move forward.  Here are some alternative definitions:

Success is not a place at which one arrives but rather the spirit with which one undertakes and continues the journey — Author Unknown

We have come here to learn and grow. Should we discover along the way that what we have been doing is no longer working for us, that we must find a more life enhancing way to relate to our problems and life challenges, then we have not failed. We have matured. We have found ourselves in a position where we must require more from ourselves and demand greater accountability from those who have applied for the jobs of public servants.

If you do not like the direction things are taking, do not behave like a child or let people get away with irresponsible, greedy behavior. You are not powerless or a victim . . . unless you want that in your Universe.

Nations and global communities have always benefited from a population that was open to learning a better way to respond to outdated ways of relating to the infrastructure of life. If this were not true there would be no civil rights movement, the wall in Berlin would still be standing, there would be no United Nations, there would still be a US embargo against Cuba . . . uh, what? There still is? Ok, forget that last one.

Don’t let fear control and dictate the limits of your life. When life presents an opportunity disguised as a setback, reach around the illusion and seize the day. And if you are one of the people sitting back waiting on the government for assistance, I offer you what Groucho Marx would tell you: “Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly and applying the wrong remedies.”

I think that could qualify as a Divine Law. I know it already is one in Washington.

vaishali-headshotVaishali is the author of Wisdom Rising and You Are What You Love. Her last Soul’s Code article, Heaven Can’t Wait, dealt with the Miracle on the Hudson casualty-free American Airlines plane crash.

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8 Comments on “How to heal from job loss: build a new you”

  1. How to connect with our individual unique miraculous genius and purpose in co-creating new systems of health?

    The last sentence,"Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly and applying the wrong remedies,” could also be stated "Politics is the art of co-creating a more perfect union, finding it evey where, diagnosing it correctly and applying the correct remedies, connections and systems of self-government."

    I believe 'The Issue' is the major shift needed to get people out of the industrial age mentality into the conceptual age...heading into the integral, magical and utopian ages.

    Thanks for creating and sharing your perspective on healthy solutions, it helped me take the first healthy step into the day.

  2. What a great article with perfect timing. Although I have lost jobs in the past and found new ones around the corner I am now at a place in life where retirement and living on Social Security is another challenge altogether.
    Around each corner friends and family have been supportive and helpful.
    Returning help and being there for others during this time while dealing with one's own issues is where I mentally go to keep myself up and vital.
    Thanks for a great reminder Vaishali.

  3. A great reminder to remember my improv theater training. Not denying "what is" is the only effective way of dodging the errant fast balls that life is prone to throw now and then. That leaves you still standing at the plate, ready to knock one out of the park.

  4. Beautifully written and so true. I once needlepointed a piece that said "The only thing we can count on in life is change." I've been unemployed for ten months, but I'm not in a panick. I know something new is's just around the corner. Change can be a GOOD thing!

  5. Dear Vaishali,

    When I first saw your picture ...I could tell you were and are special.
    I have read through and taken a warmth from your writings and hope and teachings you give to many.

    I have written my book and its on and covers eight chapters and one of them is "You’re special" and "Foods to boost your energy" et al.

    You have really made a good job great and so inspirational. We sing from the same hymn sheet and I wrote that book from the journey I undertook unknowingly.

    I am also writing another trying to write a book on "How to get good nights' sleep"

    I am glad Cyndi Ingle has put you in the fore front. As one is so busy to read and post items on a social web site as this. I say to all please read and assimilate for it will stand you in good stead in your life - but don’t depend on anything else but yourself as you have the ultimate power to change your world. Just to be.


  6. Vaishali's wisdom and amazing insight is once again highlighted in this wonderful article.

    Thank you Vaishali for being you and reminding us who we are!

  7. SO well put! I read every word and took each in thoughtfully. Thank you for such wonderful reminders!

  8. That was an inspiring and empowering article...thank you so much for writing it!

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