Lessons from the Dalai Lama — ‘Forgive, turn, and run away.’
BY DAN WOO — More than seven years ago, a friend and I were introduced to a woman who had just returned to Seattle from India after a volunteering stint with Mother Teresa’s organization.
She also went to Dharamsala where she had an interview with The Dalai Lama.
This is part of what she told us. . .
“I asked The Dalai Lama about forgiveness. I asked him what was I to do with someone who had truly abused me.
The Dalai Lama moved his face inches from mine, squinted his eyes and in spacious silence, looked into my heart.
After the passage of some indeterminate time, The Dalai Lama said that I must turn to my abuser and say ‘I forgive you’ and then turn around and run away as fast as I could.”
What I take from this; forgiveness is not an invitation to be abused or to continue to be abused or to condone harming actions. Forgiveness is ultimately one of the steps to freedom and to live presently, not snared by the past.
It is an opening of the heart and movement into the Heart of Perfect Wisdom.
Daniel D. Woo woke up to an understanding that suffering is not ended until view, intention and action are changed. Dan practices law in Seattle, Washington. You can reach him via Facebook or Linkedin.
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